More Than Milk: The Connection Between Breastfeeding and Perinatal Mental Health
- Dr. Shari-ann James
- Aug 4
- 2 min read
*August is National Breastfeeding Month, a time to raise awareness not just about the physical benefits of breastfeeding, but also the emotional and mental health journey that often accompanies it. As we honor this month, it's essential to recognize the complex relationship between breastfeeding and perinatal mental health-because it's never just about feeding.
For many new parents, breastfeeding is portrayed as a natural and intuitive process. But the truth is, it can be layered, emotional, and, at times, overwhelming. Hormonal shifts, sleep deprivation, feeding challenges, and societal pressures all intersect during this period, deeply influencing how a mother feels about herself and her experience.
Breastfeeding and Mental Health: A Two-Way Street
Breastfeeding can support mental health in meaningful ways. The release of oxytocin during nursing promotes bonding and relaxation, and some parents describe a deep sense of closeness and purpose during feeding times. For some, it becomes a grounding ritual in the chaos of early parenting.
But for others, breastfeeding can be a source of stress. Pain, low supply, latch issues, or the pressure to exclusively breastfeed can lead to guilt, anxiety, or even contribute to postpartum depression (PPD). Some parents experience D-MER (Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex); a lesser-known condition where feelings of sadness or anxiety accompany let-down.
The Importance of Compassionate Support
Whether a parent chooses to breastfeed, pump, combination feed, or formula feed, mental health should always be part of the conversation. Compassionate, nonjudgmental support from healthcare providers, lactation consultants, therapists, and community networks can make all the difference.
Tips for Supporting Mental Health While Feeding:
Check in with yourself: Notice how you feel before, during, and after feedings. Track mood patterns if needed.
Redefine success: Feeding your baby and protecting your well-being are both signs of success.
Create a support team: Seek lactation support and mental health support. You deserve both.
Take breaks: If breastfeeding feels too heavy, it's okay to pause or reevaluate.
Connect with others: Peer support groups can normalize your experience and help you feel less alone.
In Honor of National Breastfeeding Month
Let’s expand the conversation. Let’s talk about all feeding experiences-joyful, complicated, and everything in between. And most importantly, let’s center maternal mental health in every discussion about postpartum care.
Because your mental health matters, no matter how you feed your baby.
